Personal thoughts from the author

Personal thought from SJE

11/12/2006

Good evening,
Just a few personal thoughts from my mind to the net. I receive quite a few e-mails everyday from mostly men that usually start out with these 2 words: "I want"
These words bring me back to when I first began in the lifestyle which was about 6 years ago. Everything I wanted in the lifestyle of being a submissive was everything I wanted... That became the problem. I wanted to worship the Goddess I was with. I wanted to be her slave and her submissive. It did not really dawn on me until a few years later, a few Goddesses later and a few dominates later that what I wanted was relevant but in this lifestyle needed to be put on the back burner for the sake of the one I was with.
My focus now when I am with my Goddess is what she wants. I have learnt to put my "I wants" aside and focus on the needs and wants of the one I am with. I see our relationship moving in a different direction. A Positive direction.
I have to say that being a submissive is probably one of the toughest positions when it comes to relationships. We are always focused on the needs and wants of our partner. I do have to add that I enjoy every second of it. When I feel that I have predicted the thoughts of my Goddess, made her happy and her life easier I get a feeling or pride and joy! I feel grateful to have found a few different dominates and Goddesses to explore with. Currently I am with only one Great Goddess and she is definitely enough for me.
Another topic that we discuss to an extent is communication. I get quite a lot of e-mails from either husbands or wife's about how they would like to explore different roles with there significant other but they are afraid to communicate there feelings.
This happens so much in our world and sometimes it is hard for me to believe. If and when I get married I will be married to someone I can speak my mind to. If I can not communicate with my significant other then there is a problem! I realize some people may not agree and may be afraid that there husband or wife would leave them if they asked to play certain roles or do certain things when It comes to sexual play but you only live once. Why not explore the unknown?
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